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There’s Something in my Eye

“I started my day in the usual way, looking through a two by four.” That’s a line form a song by King’s X. It kept popping into mind as my pastor talked about Jesus’ teaching on judging others and how love is the antidote to that. It’s so easy not to see we are judging since it is so part of our “normal” life, our daily routine. In fact, it’s easy to let the two by four become who we are or part of who we are anyway.

Many, many years ago, a Christian comedy group called Isaac Airfreight did a fun bit with this where the kept bonking each others heads every time they turned or moved because of the boards sticking out of their faces. And the best part is that they each blamed the other person for knocking into their board. Again, as we let the judgments become part of who we are, it’s easy to blame others for “making” us judge them. We are so reticent to be wrong that we can’t see that it’s the judgment that is wrong. 

A friend of mine once told me, “My judgments of others are more about me than they are about them.” It’s like the people bonking into our boards. The issue is more about our board than them bumping into them.  We have to look at what’s happening with us when this happens.

Now, with that said, we have to remember that sometimes certain people trigger us more than others. My pastor frequently reminds us of the spiritual warfare against us, the enemy’s attempts to prevent us from growing closer to God. This enemy knows our weaknesses and our greatest hurts. He knows how to launch strategic attacks that trigger me and then offer me the opportunity to hurt you too.

This is why we need to call on Jesus to help us get the two by four out of our eye. Only as this happens can we separate the judgment from ourselves and find freedom. As this happens we can learn to love as Jesus wants us too. And we can gain the vision to discern when we are being hurt and how that can be healed rather than defensively lash back at those who hurt us because they bonk into our two by four. Again, this is another step toward loving our neighbors as we love ourselves. Just like Jesus wants.


Wiccans Stay Mum

Recently I discovered a handful of Wiccans in my town and inquired about interviewing them for the newspaper. Almost all of them declined stating that their faith is personal and don’t want to talk about. This seemed odd since many of them posted this interest on their MySpace page or on They appear to be seeking people to discuss this with, just not me.
My immediate thought was that since I am an outsider, they do not trust me enough to have the conversation. I figure it is for one of two reasons.
My first guess is that their faith is so sacred to them that any real discussion of it with outsiders would profane their beliefs. Perhaps what they believe and what they practice has such a deep sense of holiness to them that those not of the same mind cannot know about it. Perhaps various degrees of dedication and commitment are necessary to understand.
And this may be the case.
My second guess, and the one that I think is correct, is that too many people have judged them too harshly for too long for them to trust anyone to not react that way. And even if I could get them to trust me to interview them, would they trust my readers?
The fact is that even though entertainment media has given Wicca and other magical faiths a lot of time in the spotlight lately, they have sort of made light of it. As much as Wiccans believe in the magic in our earth and their ability tap into and make use of that, is it really as spectacular as it appears on TV and in movies? Are these people tapped into so much power that they are ready to rule the world? As much as someone might secretly desire what they see in movies, most of us tend to still smirk and giggle when we hear of someone that truly subscribes to the beliefs of Wicca.
I personally am not a Wiccan. I don’t fully get all that Wicca is. I believe that there are some real and powerful spiritual or perhaps even magical phenomena that Wiccans experience. I am not ready to change my beliefs but I would really like to be able to have a conversation with someone to find out what they believe, to have them stop judging me as Christian long enough to prove that I am not judging them. Granted, we Christians have given them a lot to judge us for.
I would just like the chance to be curious without being judged personally. I like to think that most Wiccans can appreciate that.

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